Vibe Check!

Hello everyone!
Back again with a new post 🙂

This post is for both Millennials and Gen Z out there. And for anyone wondering what a vibe check is – it basically means setting your boundaries (he he just a Gen Z term!).

So here’s a little story:
One weekend, I was extremely tired and little bit sick . After finishing all the household chores, I just wanted to lie down and rest for a while. But my son had other plans. He kept opening and closing the door for no real reason for atleast ten times. I honestly felt like he was giving his younger brother a live demo of “The doors on the bus go open and shut…” with our room’s real door 😐

By the 11th time, I lost my patience 🤨 and I gave our Action King Arjun’s classic dialogue from ‘Leo’ :
“Pray to God, next time you open this door, you better have a real emergency thing to talk about, otherwise for sure it’s going to be a serious situation for you”

That was it. No more opening or closing. Just peace and quiet—for at least ten full minutes!

But here’s the fun part. When my husband came home, my son asked him sweetly, “Daddy, did you eat?” My husband was touched and his mind voice like ‘enna oru akkarai appa mela 🥹’ But before he could respond, my son continued,
“If you haven’t eaten, check the kitchen. Mom might’ve kept some dosas for you. If not, please make something yourself. Mom’s sleeping.” Now my husband just chuckled and muttered , hmm as usual concerns and love only for mom 😵‍💫 ( he didn’t knew the background of this 😀 )

That’s when I thought to myself—why didn’t I draw the line earlier? Why did I wait until I was completely drained and frustrated at the same time he was cranky to the fullest ? Lesson learned: When we clearly set our boundaries,looks like people usually respect them🤔 But if we keep letting those lines get crossed, it becomes hard to maintain them.

Just thinking to give a try to set limits whenever I feel overwhelmed—whether it’s at work or in my personal life. Let me see how well I stick to it. Success, for me, is when I don’t break those boundaries I’ve created. This is something I also learned during the training session (you’ll know what I mean if you’ve read my older post on ‘Self Worth’).

Not breaking the rule or not crossing the line myself is honestly the hardest part. For instance, when I’m resting and my son comes with a book asking for help. Will I be able to ask him to wait until I feel better? I really doubt if I’ll do it. Even if I’m running temperature of 100+ degree, I will be like plssss come I will teach you first and then go to rest 😂

Let me see if I can start small —like taking 15 minutes a day of me time. I’ll let you know how it goes 😆

Would love to hear your thoughts too! Have you started setting boundaries for yourself? Or are you planning to? And if any Gen Z readers are here, please do share your tips. I truly believe you all have a better grip on this whole vibe check thing than we millennials ever did 😇